Most of my life I haven’t really had any girl friends, but recently that has been shifting for me. I have made so many friends among my fellow coaches. I can’t even begin to describe how it feels to surrounded by positive, empowered, inspiring women who lift each other up instead of competing. I feel this among the coaches on my team and also in another weight loss group I’m currently participating in. We are walking through a 42 day process where we have an assignment to write about each day.
One assignment earlier this week went something like this:
For many of us, setting a weight loss goal feels pointless. We have started and stopped so many times, there is a trail of unmet goal weights in our path. Please do not let this prevent you from going through the process one more time (or as many times as it takes).
Today I’d like you to think about the result you want for yourself. What do you want your life to look like when you reach your weight loss goal? What do you want it to FEEL like? Write it in the present tense, as if it’s already happened.
I’m not new to setting goals based on how I want to feel. I was first introduced to the idea by Danielle LaPorte in her book The Desire Map. It’s a great book and I highly recommend reading it if traditional goal setting sometimes feels stifling rather than motivating.
I spent some time writing my thoughts down about how I want to FEEL once I reach my final goal weight. I had a lot of thoughts, but many of them automatically came to my mind framed in a negative way—things like I don’t want to feel embarrassed when I walk into a room and look around to see if I’m the fattest one there, I don’t want to hide behind my fat which keeps people from really getting to know me, I don’t want to feel ashamed of the way I look and constantly be tugging on my clothing to make sure the less than desirable parts are covered. All of that feels icky. So I tore out that sheet of paper and threw it away and started over.
This is what I finally came up with. I even made it into an image, and it’s now the background on my phone. I’m going to read it out loud 3 times a day. I know that focusing on how I DO want to feel will keep me from focusing on how I don’t want to feel.
It’s your turn:
Spend some time doing the assignment for yourself, then put it somewhere that you’ll see it several times a day. Read it out loud and really try to feel the meaning behind the words. Little by little, you’ll find that your mind will look for evidence to make your desires true.
I wish you the best on your weight loss journey! If you ever need a little help, or need someone to believe in you a little more than you do, don’t hesitate to contact me.