Four years ago today I married the love of my life. The decision I made that day has forever changed my destiny — in a GOOD way — and started me down my path to happily ever after.
It’s not uncommon to read about marriage being about hard work and sacrifice. That sounds pretty depressing, if you ask me. Don’t get me wrong. I don’t think marriage is easy, and it’s certainly not about being selfish. Marriage is about promising to always look for the better in the other person — that being together is more important than being right. It’s about realizing that you’re better together than you’ve ever been apart. And most of all, it’s about constantly being grateful.
As a sort of “happy anniversary” to my husband, Scott, here are three aspects of our marriage that make me eternally grateful that I get to be a part of this amazing man’s life.
I have a best friend.
I know I can tell Scott anything and he really listens. Sometimes he has advice, and other times, he just holds me and lets me pour it all out. I know I can tell him anything because he truly wants what makes me happy. He’s the best friend I’ve ever had!
Marriage is full of fun.
Yes, marriage is work, but it’s also about having fun. It’s about inside jokes and grocery store adventures and special places that the two of you share. It’s the unexpected kisses, and snuggling in bed. Even the hard times can be a strange sort of fun when you have someone to share them with.
I always feel special.
This might be my favorite thing about marriage. Scott goes out of his way to be a gentleman and make me feel special. He does the normal things like open my door and buy me flowers. But sometimes it’s the little things — a glance from him across the room, or the electricity I feel when he holds me close. I know that no matter what I look like, or what mood I’m in, I’m special to him in a way that no one else is. Being loved like that gives me the strength to get through anything.
Neither Scott nor I are perfect, but our marriage feels perfect to me. We fight occasionally, but we both choose to forget quickly and focus on all the good things about us being together. I don’t want “work” or “sacrifice” to be the first words I would use to describe my marriage. Instead, I want to focus on love, laughter, and happily ever after!
Happy Anniversary, Babe. Love you forever!!
For my readers: I don’t pretend to be an expert on relationships. Nor do I want to be known as one. But if your marriage is feeling too much like “work” and not enough like “fun,” check out these links for some practical ideas to get your marriage on the path to happily ever after.
5 Steps to a Succesful Marriage